Hey guys, here’s another article from our guest blogger Kunle Adebayo.
I have been thinking a lot about confidence, healthy self-esteem, and positivity at work. In Nigeria, more often than not, confidence may be mistaken for arrogance. However, according to Wikipedia, “Self-esteem is a term used in psychology to reflect a person's overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgement of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent," "I am worthy") and emotions such as triumph, despair, pride and shame”. It is a way that we try to evaluate ourselves positively and negatively and how we feel about this evaluation. Self-esteem is a combination of a feeling of personal capacity, self-confidence, and self-respect – knowing your worth and treating yourself accordingly. How then could this be arrogance? The answer is it isn’t. Confidence is a good thing especially if you have been put in a position of authority. Many times though we expect other people to treat us with some regard or respect, but we fail to actually ask:
· Do I deserve the respect I command?
· What position have I placed myself for me to expect to be treated with respect?
In order to earn the respect we command, it is important to develop one’s skill set and develop a courteous polite attitude at work. This will earn us the respect and regard we need in our place of work. As it is said “respect is reciprocal”. As it is expected of a subordinate to respect his/her superior, so also is some form of respect expected towards the subordinate from the superior. This kind of respect cannot be earned if we don’t place ourselves in the right position. It is important to develop our self-esteem because it increases the capacity to be happy. Also, many people with the right self-esteem always have the conviction that they deserve to be happy.
With high self-esteem and a lot of confidence, there is a high tendency for an individual to be able to cope with stress, and take on difficult tasks because of a high level of self -belief and optimism, thus nothing seems to be difficult or stressful. It is therefor highly important that we try to build confidence in ourselves. Look sharp, speak smartly, respect others, learn new skills to empower you at work, and never ever forget to pray.
Kunle Adebayo aka Dr. Kae a budding human capital development and brand consultant with a passion for social welfare and community development. In his spare time, Kunle volunteers at an adult teaching facility and is an advocate for developing individuals and communities in order to foster nationwide development. He tweets via @doctorkae and he works with us right here at insiteful solutions.